Comments on: Bad Blogosphere Day

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 19:57:00 +0000

I am so sorry you got a trolling comment. That really sucks. It does take the wind from your sails.

I hope you don't stop blogging because of it. Honestpoet is right. People do seem to feel "ballsy" when they don't have to put their own name behind something.

And honestly, it probably has NOTHING to do with you. I read the blog of a man who's divorced. His ex checks his site several times a day. And she's been known to leave nasty anon comments on the blogs of other women who read his blog and comment. (did that make sense?)

By: honestpoet

honestpoet — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 04:15:00 +0000

I simply don't allow anonymous comments at my blog.

People are rude enough when they're just a username and webpage. When they don't even have that accountability, they're even worse.

By: Jill

Jill — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 21:23:00 +0000

Eric got a couple of snarky comments on an old post recently too. He didn’t really care since he’s cooled on blogging anyway. But still! Annoying. Whatever happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.”

By: yerdoingitwrong

yerdoingitwrong — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 06:23:00 +0000

I’m a little late to the party, but I was going through the future MILF blogs and came across this post. I dealt with something like this recently, too. An anonymous jackass decided to do some drive by judging. It made me think that I’m too sensitive to blog and that maybe this isn’t for me, but I agree with all of your supporters. Forget that chickenshit (excuse my french) and keep up the good work!! I’m going to peruse the rest of your blog. I’m sure I’ll love it. Hang in there, girl!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 17:37:00 +0000

OMG! I just had to deal with this the first time this week! I reacted the same way you did – at first I was upset and sad and then angry. This person was basically calling me a negligent mom, and when my hubby retorted playfully they CAME BACK and were even more nasty. I turned off the anon comment feature because of it. I don’t want to think of my blog in a negative way, and the comments were just making me sick.

Delete, delete, delete. It’s not worth it. You rock!

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 17:12:00 +0000

Oh Hon, you just HAVE to get a thicker skin."

With all due respect to Attila the Mom, I firmly believe that rather than everyone needing to get a thicker skin, a large part of those interacting on the internet should clean up their act and quit acting like shitheads, and expecting the onus to be on others to not let it affect them. That has been my experience and I have recently made a commitment to vastly change my blogging behavior in an effort to only attract those with whom I enjoy interacting to my blog.

And it has worked.

By: Attila The Mom

Attila The Mom — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 06:50:00 +0000

Oh Hon, you just HAVE to get a thicker skin.

No matter what you say, there is always SOMEBODY who is going to disagree or have a problem with it.

Those who stick around to read your blog because they enjoy it and YOU might just skip commenting on a particular post if they disagree. Or they might politely view their opinion. The world would be a pretty damn boring place if we were all the same.

By the same token, there are the anonymouses who feel they have to stir the sh*t-pile but are too cowardly to do it face to face. Don’t sweat it.

Personally, I have a serious problem with the words “retard” and most recently “fucktard”, simply because these are terms that have been flung at my guys over the years.

If someone whose blog I enjoy uses them on a regular basis, I’ll email them or say something in comments about how hurtful those terms are. But I’ll do it under my own name. If it continues, I’ll just go away. Obviously, that blog isn’t right for “me”.

Blog for yourself. That’s why we all do it. Although some might view it as a popularity contest—really, that’s just silly.

You can NEVER please all of the people all of the time. Tell that to yourself every day.

Those who enjoy you will keep coming back. Those who don’t—well, really—why care? Just not a match.

I’ll keep coming back because I think you’re adorable.

By: Karen Rani

Karen Rani — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 00:45:00 +0000

Don’t sweat it. I get hate mail and things said to and about me all the time. 99% of the feedback I get from blogging is positive. Now that is something to focus on.

Keep on doing what you’re doing!
Karen
xo

By: Kevin Charnas

Kevin Charnas — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 00:44:00 +0000

I've spared a little here and there, it's always the spineless anonymous ones that cause the trouble.

Don't deprive us of your voice, just because of one anonymous asshole who criticizes.

It doesn't matter what they think of you, it matters what YOU think of you.

By: Peg

Peg — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 20:04:00 +0000

Hi there! I found you via Plain Jane…I too have gotten a couple of stinging anonymous comments. The most cutting and rude comments by far are those from the anonymous writer. And somehow they seem even worse because we sensitive souls can’t help but wonder “who the hell IS that, and what did I say or do to provoke them?” As others have said–consider the source…the self-loathing, cowardly source that lacks the conviction to stand up for their own commentary.

I’m glad I found your blog, Mamma…I like your style!