Why I Love St. Patrick’s Day–It’s Not What You Think
I have a fondness for this day we celebrate our collective Irish heritage–both real and imagined.
I don’t necessarily imbibe in green beer, though I have, and I did enjoy corned beef and cabbage today (a first). I don’t love St. Patrick’s Day because I’m particularly fond of bagpipes or long lines at Irish Pubs.
I love St. Patrick’s Day because I’m adopted.
I’ve always known I was adopted. I went straight from the hospital to my parents. I’m taller than both my parents, but I am a brunette like my mom. Like many modern families, my parents divorced and my mom remarried when I was 10, so I mainly grew up without anyone questioning if I was adopted because they knew the guy I called my dad was actually my step-father.
In my sister’s case, the fact of her adoption was a little more obvious. My first real memories are of the events surrounding her adoption when I was 3 1/2. She actually went home with her biological family for a few months before coming to us and we know that she is of Puerto Rican descent.
So what does this all have to do with St. Patrick’s Day? I’m getting there.
In my twenties, I requested the non-identifying information about my adoption from the agency that handled it. Honestly, I wasn’t looking for much information, though I did discover I had been given another first name at birth (my mom swears she told me this–I contend that’s not something I would have forgotten) and that my birth parents weren’t related by blood (Phew! Dodged that bullet! Shit I hadn’t even contemplated the possibility.) I was interested in a totally different piece of information. There was only one thing I wanted to know–one little thing that has always bugged me.
I want to know my ethnic background.
As an adoptee, I’ve never been too interested in finding my biological parents, but I have wanted to feel some connection to those who have come before me. To be able to stake a claim to an ethnic “home country” feels like it would give me a sense of my place in the chain of human events.
So there I was, scanning through the documents I received from the agency, finding out that my name had been Emily for a few days and my birth parents were young and probably “made” me in the back of a Trans-Am with Led Zepplin blaring on the AM radio, when my eyes found the box containing the information I had been searching for.
Ethnic heritage: American
AMERICAN??!!
My blue eyes, dark hair and plethora of freckles suggest that this didn’t mean Native American.
My physical characteristics suggest I’m Irish. I once dated a self-proclaimed “black Irish” guy and it was somewhat awkward to kiss in public, because people often thought we were siblings.
Does it make sense now why I love St. Patrick’s Day?
It’s the one day a year I get to have a nationality–even if I don’t have proof.



Yep! I broke my ankle.
Since I just love giving stuff away (I’d be happy to give you this cast, really), I have a great prize for the most entertaining story describing how I’ve found myself in this predicament. Write the story (please, because I need one) on your blog and link back to this post and I’ll pick the winner at the end of the week.